{"id":1023,"date":"2013-03-01T10:10:00","date_gmt":"2013-03-01T08:10:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/mazion.org\/?p=1023"},"modified":"2026-09-29T17:41:42","modified_gmt":"2026-09-29T14:41:42","slug":"shut-f-up","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mazion.org\/en\/2013\/03\/shut-f-up.html","title":{"rendered":"Shut the f*** up !"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\">\n<a href=\"https:\/\/mazion.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/blog\/keep-calm-and-shut-the-f-up-44.jpg\" imageanchor=\"1\" style=\"margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" border=\"0\" height=\"320\" src=\"https:\/\/mazion.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/blog\/keep-calm-and-shut-the-f-up-44.jpg\" width=\"274\" \/><\/a><\/div>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: Verdana,sans-serif;\"><b>&#8222;Avem&nbsp; doua urechi si o singura gura deci ar trebui sa ascultam mai mult decat vorbim&#8221;<\/b>. Zeno din Citium ( via Diogene Laertius).<\/span><br \/>\n<span style=\"font-family: Verdana,sans-serif;\"><br \/><\/span><br \/>\n<span style=\"font-family: Verdana,sans-serif;\">Dar a asculta a devenit o adevarata arta. As identifica sase moduri (defectuoase) in care ascultam (sau nu) :<\/p>\n<p>A) <b>Filtrand<\/b>. Ascultam aparent atenti dar auzim doar<br \/>\npartile care ne intereseaza. Filtram ignorand tot ce nu ne intereseaza<br \/>\n(aparent) sau nu corespunde concluziilor noastre (deja trase)<br \/>\n<br \/>\nB) <b>Visand<\/b>. Ascultam visand la altceva pina cand o<br \/>\nanumite asociere de cuvinte sau imagini puternice ( din discursul celui<br \/>\npe care ar trebui sa il ascultam) de atrag atentia si atunci &#8222;sarim&#8221; in<br \/>\ndiscutie.<\/p>\n<p>C) <b>Deraiere<\/b>. Schimbam subiectul sau perspectiva Inainte<br \/>\n ca partenerul sa isi termine discursul. Extrem de neplacut si deranjant<br \/>\n pentru partenerul de discutie.<\/p>\n<p>D) <b>Presupuneri<\/b>. Deoarece nu am ascultat cu adevarat sau<br \/>\n nu ne convine ce am auzit incepem sa reinterpretam sau sa explicam ce a<br \/>\n &#8222;dorit&#8221; partenerul sa spuna. Ii &#8222;citim&#8221; gandurile si deraiem in zona<br \/>\ndorita de noi uneori chiar convingandu-l ca asta a vrut si el sa spuna.<br \/>\nWrong.<br \/>\n<br \/>\nE) <b>Indiferenta<\/b>. Sunt de acord cu tot ce spui caci nu ma intereseaza deloc subiectul si\/sau discutia.<br \/>\n<br \/>\nF) <b>GOD<\/b>. Refuzam orice comentariu, critica sau<br \/>\nmodificare a ceea ce am spus. Nimic nu se poate adauga la ceea ce am<br \/>\ndecretat si oricum discutia am initiat-o de dragul unei false<br \/>\ndemocratii. Monolog vs Dialog.<\/p>\n<p>G)<b> Ante-pronuntare<\/b>.Nici nu a inceput bine sa vorbeasca partenerul dar deja stii ca nu are dreptate. Sau are 100% dreptate.<\/p>\n<p>H) <b>Grabitii<\/b>. Nici nu apuca sa isi prezinte o idee ca<br \/>\ndeja intervii si o combati. La un moment dat se va resemna si va tacea<br \/>\niar tu nu ai auzit chiar nimic din ce avea de spus.<\/p>\n<p>Desigur ele se pot combina cate 2 sau cate 3.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\">\n<a href=\"https:\/\/mazion.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/03\/silence.jpg\" imageanchor=\"1\" style=\"margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" border=\"0\" height=\"300\" src=\"https:\/\/mazion.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/03\/silence.jpg\" width=\"400\" \/><\/a><\/div>\n<p><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&#8222;Avem&nbsp; doua urechi si o singura gura deci ar trebui sa ascultam mai mult decat vorbim&#8221;. Zeno din Citium ( via Diogene Laertius). Dar a asculta a devenit o adevarata arta. As identifica sase moduri (defectuoase) in care ascultam (sau nu) : A) Filtrand. 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