Much of life's fatigue comes not from what we actually have to do, but from the fact that we mentally take on responsibilities that belong to others: their haste, their lack of organization, their conflicts, their anxiety, the emergencies that they themselves have created.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Wisdom does not mean indifference. It means separating three things: what depends on you, what you can influence, and what does not belong to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If something depends on you, act. If you can only influence it, do what is reasonable and then accept the limit of your influence. If it does not belong to you, do not turn it into a personal burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Stoics expressed this idea by distinguishing between things that are "in our power" and those that are not. Epictetus begins even Enchiridion<\/em> with this separation. The point is not to give up on the world, but to not waste your energy trying to control what cannot be controlled.<\/p>\n\n\n\n There is also a more subtle consequence. Sometimes we think that being responsible means solving everything. In fact, mature responsibility also involves the ability to say: "This is my part. The rest must be solved by the one to whom it belongs."\u201e<\/p>\n\n\n\n For today, before you react to a problem, you can use a ten-second test:<\/p>\n\n\n\n The last question is usually the most interesting.<\/p>\n\n\n\n And one more thing: not reacting immediately is not the same as doing nothing. Sometimes the smartest action is to let the problem sit for a few hours without intervention. Many \u201eemergencies\u201d shrink on their own when they are not fueled by our reaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The lesson of the day, in one sentence:<\/p>\n\n\n\n Use your energy for what you can change, your judgment to recognize what you cannot change, and your discipline to not confuse them.<\/strong><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" O mare parte din oboseala vie\u021bii nu vine din ceea ce avem efectiv de f\u0103cut, ci din faptul c\u0103 prelu\u0103m mental responsabilit\u0103\u021bi care apar\u021bin altora: graba lor, lipsa lor de organizare, conflictele lor, anxietatea lor, urgen\u021bele pe care tot ei le-au creat. \u00cen\u021belepciunea nu \u00eenseamn\u0103…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"_kad_post_classname":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[33,44,64],"class_list":["post-52366","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-etica-si-morala","tag-etica","tag-idealism","tag-opinii"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/mazion.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/52366","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/mazion.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/mazion.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mazion.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mazion.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=52366"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/mazion.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/52366\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":52368,"href":"https:\/\/mazion.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/52366\/revisions\/52368"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/mazion.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=52366"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mazion.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=52366"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mazion.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=52366"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}\n